Kodi munayamba mwadzifunsapo momwe zingakhalire mutakhala ndi chidole chogonana ? Ndikutanthauza, Kumene, tonse tikudziwa kuti ndi milu ya pulasitiki ndi zitsulo. Koma akadakhala ochuluka ? Bwanji akanakhala anthu, ndi malingaliro ndi malingaliro ? Ndilo funso lomwe ndiyankha lero polankhula za ubale wanga ndi chidole changa chokwera.. Patha zaka zitatu chiyambireni moyo wanga, ndi nthawi imeneyi, sitinalankhulepo kalikonse, ngati si dzina lake (Sophie) kapena kuti alibe malingaliro kapena malingaliro pa chilichonse. Iye ndi thupi chabe limene tingagwiritse ntchito tikafuna ubwenzi wapamtima, koma palibe amene angafune nthawi imeneyo – pang'ono ngati kugwiritsa ntchito dzanja lanu m'malo pakamwa panu, chifukwa imakhalapo nthawi zonse mukayifuna !

Nthawi zina, simukutsimikiza zomwe mukumva ndipo mumavutika kunena china chilichonse kupatulapo “chifundo”.

Simudziwa ngati ndi mphatso kapena cholowa m'malo mwa munthu wina kapena chinthu chopanda moyo chomwe chimakukumbutsani kuti anali ndani., kapena momwe anamvera, koma chidole chogonana chimakhala ndi inu nthawi zonse.

Ndikosavuta kuyankhula ndi munthu chidole chogonana kuposa munthu.

Simuyenera kudandaula za kuwakhumudwitsa.

Simuyenera kuda nkhawa kuti akuweruzani.

Mutha kunena chilichonse chomwe mukufuna.

Kwa anthu ambiri, zidole zogonana ndi mwayi wodziwonetsera mwatsopano. Mutha kukhala omasuka ndi chidole chanu ndikugawana naye zinthu zomwe simunganene kwa munthu wina. Ngati kulankhula za m'tsogolo zingaoneke zachilendo pamene inu kucheza ndi chinthu chopanda moyo, kwenikweni ndi chinthu chabwino ku thanzi lanu lamalingaliro – ndi kwa munthu amene tsiku lina adzakhala mwini wako chidole chaching'ono chogonana .

Simuyenera kudandaula za kukhumudwitsa kapena kukhumudwitsa wina pamene palibe (kapena ngakhale moyo).

Mutha kukhala oona mtima ndi inu nokha ndi kunena zomwe zimadza mwachibadwa kwa inu popanda kudandaula ngati wina aliyense akugwirizana ndi zomwe mukunena., chifukwa palibe wina pano ! Malire a kulankhulana kwa anthu amagwira ntchito mosiyana malinga ndi kuti munthu akulankhula ndi bwenzi lake logonana naye kapena kukambirana zomwezo kudzera pa meseji., d'maimelo, mafoni, ndi zina. Njira zolankhuliranazi zimakhala zopinga pakati pa ife ndi ena, moti nthawi zambiri timaopa kuweruzidwa ndi ena, chani, kumapeto kwa tsiku, chimakhudza mmene timadzilola kufotokoza zakukhosi kwathu momasuka popanda kuopa chiweruzo, chifukwa palibe zotsatira ngati wina sakonda zomwe tanena. uwu….

Mumagwiritsitsa kuti simukufuna kunena zonyansa kwa chidole chanu chophulika, chomwe chilinso mulu wa pulasitiki ndi zitsulo, pamene mungakonde kuchita ndi munthu wina. Sikuti amamva chilichonse, ayi ? Mumangopanga chikondi ndi chinthu, osati ndi aliyense !

Ndiwe munthu wosungulumwa ndipo ulibe abwenzi ambiri. Mumaona kuti n’zovuta kunena zakukhosi kwanu komanso mmene mukumvera ndipo mulibe wolankhula naye.

Mukuganiza bwanji ngati chidole chanu chogonana chinali ndi malingaliro kapena malingaliro, sangakhale tcheru kwambiri chifukwa ali chinthu m'maso mwanu.

Ndikofunika kukumbukira kuti zidole zogonana si anthu. Akhoza kupangidwa ndi zinthu zofanana ndi anthu, koma sangathe kuchita monga iwo. Ndipo iwo ndithudi alibe chidziwitso chimene inu mukunena pamene inu kunena zinthu ngati “ndizodabwitsa kwambiri”. Osalankhula za chodabwitsa kuti mukulankhula ndi chidole chogonana – zomwe zingalepheretse cholinga cha kukambirana !

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